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It is the mastery of fear.\u0022 -- Mark Twain\r\n\u0022...and the absence of fear is stupidity.\u0022 -- Badger\u0027s high school track coach\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\r\n\r\nA few months ago, I went rockclimbing with a few friends. It was an indoor facility, and I was the only rookie in the bunch.\r\n\r\nI had to suppress a chuckle once or twice overhearing the climbers ask each other to \u0022belay me,\u0022 which brought to mind the old Ross Jeffries NLP line \u0022below me.\u0022 (Belaying is the act of counterbalancing a climber\u0027s weight to arrest a fall in the event the climber loses contact with the rock face.)\r\n\r\nI had a decent enough time, I met some of the challenges and got a good workout, but I am going to lie to my readership -- the overwhelming memory of the afternoon is one of repeated waves of fear, a dizzying, nauseating fear that rippled from my chest to the rest of my body and combined with the acute soreness to make all my limbs shake. I\u0027m not particularly comfortable with heights, and when you put that together with a new athletic challenge, the pressure to impress these people that I really respected, and a body harness just inches from squeezing my balls, I felt my head and heart start to pound...and I started to worry to myself \u0022what happens if I fail?\u0022 How I would look in front of these veterans?\r\n=====Understanding Fear And Its Role In Social Confidence=====\r\nI had honestly not felt that kind of fear, with its blinding intensity, in many many years. Interestingly, it took that shock of fear to make me realize that I am relatively fearless. I\u0027ve rarely had trouble going against the grain of what was expected by others when I thought they were were wrong, taking extra steps to get involved in things I am interested in -- or to tell a pal, \u0022you go out if you want -- I\u0027m going to stay in tonight.\u0022 My steadfast stubbornness was a calling card of sorts when I was younger, and it never really dawned on me that I lacked much of the social fear instinct that inappropriately motivates so many people (oftentimes with permanently disastrous results). Whether it was the pressure to drink heavily or take drugs, to spend my working or free time a certain way, or get married or behave in certain ways around women because it was \u0022what a man should do\u0022 at whatever age.\r\n\r\nEven with the dedication to the game, the scores of approaches I had done that I\u0027d had no business going into, my nervousness was never much more than getting a shot at the doctor -- a brief prick of discomfort, and after a few seconds I\u0027m either in the set talking to the girl, or we\u0027ve separated and I\u0027ve gone on with my day. Even in my many heartbreaks over the past several years, I was always left with a sense of sour disappointment and a desire to do better, but never fear, never a sense that I failing with no recompense, that my psyche thought I was really in trouble.\r\n=====Recognizing Approach Anxiety And Building Empathy=====\r\nAs I was digesting the experience later that day, it dawned on me that I had experienced what a lot of guys go through with intense, even crippling approach anxiety. I have had a lot of success minimizing AA, but I understand that many men are not there, and that the simplest step in the dating game -- opening -- is one they have a lot of trouble getting through. The rock climbing experience gave me an anchor of empathy I had not had in a while. It has already helped me better connect with and teach guys who need help with their dating game, as I can better express a sense of understanding for what they are going through. [Finding confidence requires acknowledging fear exists](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2019\/07\/26\/how-to-find-confidence\/) and developing strategies to overcome it rather than denying its presence.\r\n\r\nI recall when I was a freshman in high school, and a senior varsity football captain came to talk to us before our first game. He told us, \u0022you guys are going to be extremely nervous. I still get extremely nervous before games.\u0022 That resonated very deeply with me -- this was the guy whose teammates had selected him to lead them into battle, and he\u0027s admitting that HE has to keep the butterflies at bay. That was the first seed of me learning to master my fears, of which I had many when I was starting out in athletics.\r\n\r\nArianna Huffington wrote a book about becoming fearless- a typical modern tome of teaching our young girls to become anything they want, etc etc. I thought the premise was incredibly stupid, because fear is going to be there. Selling young people on the idea that they can banish their fear in a sort of modernist baptism is leading them down the wrong road. The right strategy is teaching people how to push through their fear in the pursuit of things that are worthwhile or that they really believe in.\r\n=====What Women Should Understand About Male Fear=====\r\nI hope female readers here can understand what I\u0027m getting at...some of the guys who approach you DO lack fear entirely. MOST other men, including [many attractive sociable guys](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/France-dating-service.html?gender=male) in the sweet-spot greater-beta category, are trying to master their fear in one way or another. I dislike hearing \u0022I don\u0027t want a guy who is nervous to talk to me.\u0022 If that is a woman\u0027s belief, then she will only be satisfied by approaches from sociopaths. [Most men truly admire women who support them](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2020\/03\/02\/what-is-your-relationship-culture\/) through nervous moments, demonstrating the emotional maturity that builds lasting bonds.\r\n\r\nEven guys that you think have it totally together on the outside are struggling with this on the inside. We do a lot to quell it in the game teachings, but at the end of the night it\u0027s just something a guy has to fight through. The good news for guys, though, is that [there are a lot of girls out there](https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/France-dating-service.html?gender=female) for whom you don\u0027t have to put on a Clintonesque bravado -- swallowing your fear for a moment and making a sound approach, and then carrying on a reasonably confident, measured conversation, is enough to get you in the door.\r\n=====The Power Of Teamwork And Mutual Support=====\r\nA footnote on the climbing afternoon: one of the girls in the group took the time to belay me on my first couple of climbs, and I was amazed at her ability to keep me from panicking by encouraging me from the ground. She shouted things like \u0022keep going, Badger, I got you -- you\u0027re doing great!\u0022 in the most positive, confident tone. It really felt good to have someone rooting for me, which took a lot of the edge off of the unnerving first climb. The feeling reminded me of my high school football team, a very tight-knit crew, and the sort of selfless concern we had for each other, the pride we took in each other\u0027s successes.\r\n\r\nEven though this woman was obviously female, I believe that kind of collective spirit is what activates groups men and romantic relationships to really push the envelope. The most amazing things can happen when you have a group of guys believing in each other -- or a couple believing in each other. You don\u0027t have to wonder \u0022what would I do if I wasn\u0027t afraid?\u0022 or \u0022what happens if I fail?\u0022 The idea of retreating or giving up never enters your mind. You don\u0027t know how, but you know the team is going to press on. [Women respect men who have earned prestige from peers](https:\/\/blog.loveawake.com\/2022\/10\/24\/how-women-really-feel-about-male-dominance\/) through integrity, loyalty, and genuine concern for those around them.\r\n\r\nMy God, that\u0027s a great feeling. One of the sad things about the prescribed pathway for the \u0022standard American male lifestyle\u0022 is that it takes men away from the opportunities to experience that kind of teamwork again. Watching the game with the guys until your wife won\u0027t let you put off your Honey Do list any longer, until you have to go to work and drone yourself out for a Lumbergh manager who doesn\u0027t give two rips about your performance except to the degree it won\u0027t get his ass chewed by his own boss, does not engender the sort of psychological rush I am talking about.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-12-16","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-12-16","bf_site_internet":"","bf_adresse":"","bf_code_postal":"","bf_ville":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"RockClimbingFearAndDatingGame","date_creation_fiche":"2025-12-16 05:55:24","statut_fiche":"1","imagebf_image":"","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-12-16 05:55:24","user":"66.249.74.96","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-12-16\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-12-16\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022RockClimbingFearAndDatingGame\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-12-16 05:55:24\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-12-16 05:55:24\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/www.irn-passport2c.fr\/?RockClimbingFearAndDatingGame"}}